Three weeks ago I kissed my wife goodbye in the morning at 7:00 am to go to work. When I returned towards the afternoon, I did not hear the dog barking. I went into my place and found it half empty. On my computer keyboard was a Dear John letter than she left. Basically she told me she left me because I was unhappy with her. She did not want me to contact her, wanted her space, and stated that she was going to talk to an attorney about a divorce. Flashforward three weeks later and she finally emailed me after no contact.
She told me that she had no choice but to leave the way she did. She also said that " we" both knew that we were concluding to this point. In short, both her letters don't make any sense.
I was not unhappy to the point that I wanted to leave the marriage. In fact while she was planning her leave ( I am guessing few months), she was playing the doting loving wife kissing, dancing, talking about our future, our move to another city and so forth. I did not think that our relationship was in such disarray that SHE may the unilateral decision to leave.
I say unilateral because she was not always a good communicator. They say that it is usually the men who do not communicate but in this case I was always asking her what was wrong, if she needed to talk to me about anything regarding the relationship and she always said " nothing is wrong." So when she says it takes two to break I do believe in that statement strongly. However in this case she made all the decisions on her own.
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