Sandi,
I just can't seem to get details everything is just foggy if that makes sense.
Our marriage was good or so I thought up until 3 years ago. Since then I had opportunities but just didn't do anything or the right things. From what I see she is WAW no affairs for either of us and she does not go out even now.

I just think the stress of kids, finances and neglect took their toll on her. Like I said earlier after the first BD almost 3 yrs ago she still came back and said she really did love me I just didn't find the help I needed.
History
Married mid 20's first kid a few years later a second right after then 7 yrs and the lat 8yrs after that. She was upset when she got pregnant that last time and even mentioned not going thru with it. Maybe that is where it all started.

She has questioned the marriage in the last 6 months saying it was just the next thing to do and that we were too young. I don't know I just saw this as a rough patch and once the kids were thru college things would get better. I guess I just looked ahead and ignored what I didn't want to see because that would be failure on my part.