Yip, they sure are. Interactions with STBX are simply business and S10 arrangements now. Totally detached and looking forward to the future.
It's hard but stay the path and you get there. May not save your M but after a while when you look back you ask if you really would want to. The last year 1/2 was hell. No way I'd want to be with someone like that. Just no.
Peace
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.