Glad your back, but sorry you are so overwhelmed. If anyone can handle it, Im sure you can.
Regarding the drama, I really do not understand your wife's mentality. You are keeping your children safe, grounded, and intellectually challenged. Who cares what your daughter wears to school? It sounds like she is seeking attention from you and the children are all she has left to control you with. I am sorry that you have to deal with this. It is so unhealthy and irrational. (i know you know this already, but sometimes it helps to read it ) I dont know why the WAS feel this need to continue to hurt and control, when they already hurt us so much. They won already. They caused the most hurt. Why pour salt in the wound? I really dont have insight into that because I cannot comprehend it. The only thing I can think of is that maybe in their minds they are so deeply wounded that they feel justified in making you suffer? THey think it will alleviate some of their pain?
On a side note, I really wish the courts evaluated and took into consideration which spouse caused the disruption within the family unit regarding unhealthy behaviors like infidelity, or even just walking away from the marriage. Theses actions are so apparently negligent to the children why are they rewarded?
Interesting insight regarding setting boundaries. Are you preparing for possibly looking to connect with a new relationship? I get what you are saying. Being standoffish because of the fear of being hurt again, will not attract someone. And being hyper critical or sensitive torwards someone might make you miss out on a truly great relationship. On the other hand it is hard not to be vulnerable, and someone can easily exploit those insecurities.
Maybe when your ready, if you just dated without any expectations. Just trying to go out and have fun with someone on a casual basis? Just for interaction and conversation with the oppostite sex? Easy to say yes. But sometimes instead of thinking so much about how cold the water is you just have to jump right in!
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
) I dont know why the WAS feel this need to continue to hurt and control, when they already hurt us so much. They won already. They caused the most hurt. Why pour salt in the wound? I really dont have insight into that because I cannot comprehend it. The only thing I can think of is that maybe in their minds they are so deeply wounded that they feel justified in making you suffer? THey think it will alleviate some of their pain? 