Where to begin?

[Dawgs]

Another day. I have been reading through my posts and realize just how much of a fool I sound like. I swear I am not as bad as my posts make me out to be!

Seriously though, I have a few questions:
1) How is separation viewed by members here? Is it a trial run for divorce? Does it validate the WAS's feelings that divorce was justified? Does it even help?
2) How is trust regained after an EA? My W still feels that I check up on her and goes out of her way to show me who she is talking to on social media, but still says that there is a trust issue (remember the trust issues from childhood) because I "snooped." So, how do I go about regaining her trust as well as trusting again?
3) I know that each situation is different, yet so many that are similar, does detaching actually work out? I read in another thread on here that the poster felt his W was validated in her loneliness feelings after he detached. I am at a crossroads on this one...at some point I feel it may be working and others it seems distant.
4)I know about GAL and all that goes with it, but just how does one go about detaching and doing this when the person they love with all their heart is behaving this way?
5) Final question. In relation to a previous post of mine concerning my W having "toys" shipped to a friend's house (not sure if she is having a relationship with her female friend) and the finding of the "toy" in her work bag - is any of this a concern and should it be addressed?????

Thanks in advance!