Quote: You cannot force him to have an R talk with you. And right now, I am not sure his answers would be what you WANT to hear, nor what you NEED to hear. As someone told me LONG ago, why are you asking an MLCer to make SENSE when they don't have a CLUE what they are doing?
You're absolutely right, holdingon. But here's the thing: I don't feel I'm trying to control anything or force a conversation. Maybe I am wrong about that and maybe that is how H is seeing it too. I hadn't thought about it that way.
Here's how I have been seeing things: H decided to give me papers when last I knew H was working on himself and on moving home. H has offered me no explanations for why this now. And now H is pushing me in every brief interaction we have to get these papers returned.
H has repeatedly said he wishes I could understand and I have said that if he wants that he needs to offer me some kind of explanation. I can't read his mind. And the conversations we'd been having were ones in which we were giving each other that kind of information and feedback. So it seemed a natural request.
I have asked once and then I have expressed disappointment that H chose to ignore my question, as H and I have done with each other in more productive times-- not accusatory, but simply pointing out we agreed to have a certain kind of communication together. H has asked that I be clear in my communication with him and tell him how I feel.
I feel I have done that and I don't plan to bring it up again.
About the Atty-- I don't have one right now... though I've consulted with one about these papers.
