Hey Cali. You do realize that these things didn't happen overnight and won't be fixed/healed overnight, right? I mean, by now you know that.
In many ways, it really and truly is a new relationship you two are building. One based on truth and trust. That takes time, amigo. No way around that.
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The STD, the A, not feeling safe in the relationship, issues from the old M , over this weekend we touched on them a bit … had a mini-breakthrough in a way … but more than that we are at least talking about it.
Not sure I'd qualify those as roadblocks per se. More like tests to overcome
But I hear you and I get it. I think you are well grounded, Cali. You have a perspective that few have the patience to get to when tested. Many would have run and started over long before now. You didn't. I think that speaks volumes regardless how things turn out in the family section of life.
I think you can also say that your W has kind of hit a point in her life where she has to admit that what she thought and was doing isn't working. Seems that may take time to work through. To do that and try to build a marriage is no easy feat. I suspect your assessment is spot on for all three of you. I think your view is that detached at this point, that you can see things you couldn't before. There may be more, but I think you have your finger on the pulse.
She's a lucky lady that you are still here at this point and have that kind of integrity.
But you know all that. Just wanted to give you props for the areas going well
Don't let up though. I know there's more for you to do to really see what happens and where things end up.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
