I can't tell you if it's a bad idea or not, only that it struck me as something I would do (thus perpetuating the idea that we're the same person, LOL). Sometimes in this whole process I've just felt like I had to trust my gut and risk potentially going against DB principles. But then again, it is the wise JJ who reminded me, do what works. Try something, if it doesn't work, backtrack calmly and quickly. Personally, I think you have a good thing to hold out for: you have something he wants, and you want an answer from him. You're not being mean or angry or vindictive, just calmly stating what you want. Personally, I think you should hang tough on this one. MHO. Hugs to you, m'dear.
