Hi avanti. Yes they have been so helpful and thank you for reaching out to me. I have read the dr 2 times and I'm still having trouble setting big boundaries such as tell h to pack his bags already and another issue is that I am having a really hard time is detaching from him... I need to respect myself and tell him he needs to go. I'm running a hotel. But I'm afraid that he'll stop paying rent and all the bills... why is this so hard... I read there are two main things to do before you can reconcile and it's to detach and gal. My 2 main problems. ..
As you've read the book, that's a great start and let's get you into problem solving mode. The first part of that is to determine what your goals are. Have you done that bit? Do they comply with the guidelines MWD sets out? I'm not prying and asking you to post them just get them written and correctly structured so they have impact for you.
If you don't know what you really want to achieve, when you want it to be achieved by and how you are going to do it, there is no real purpose for you. People with purpose and direction thrive and move forward. It's not easy but they do it anyway, become one of those people and the answers to the points you made above will come clear to you.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
