I'll say again, for 4 months in you are really doing quite well and nothing you are feeling is out of the ordinary or strange.
Now, you have all these great people following you and steering you in the right direction, you should be really grateful.
Stop thinking about your wife (I know, easier said than done) and look after yourself. So where are you with the lawyer and the legal standpoint. Do not count on your wife to do the "right" thing.
