So I was left floundering. Wondering is he punishing and manipulating me? As in "Fine, you don't want to worry about me. I won't call you." Or did I push him closer to OW since I didn't rush to "fix" the situation and seem terribly worried? So maybe he didn't call/message us b/c he was with OW the whole time so she could care for him.
Lost! There is no way to know. You arent PUSHING him anywhere. He is a grown man and is going to make his own decisions about what he feels is best. What he thinks is best for him and what you think is best for him might not be the same. Your actions arent going to PUSH him farther.
Think of it this way, if you are on a walk together and you stop walking, he is going to get farther away, right? Does that mean by you stopping that you are PUSHING him? Of course not! He is choosing to continue on his life without you.
There are so many reasons that he could be not skyping you, and it really doesnt matter. In the end, they are his choices.
Originally Posted By: Lost08
Back to looking at myself in the mirror again. Man, I really don't like this. Maybe I can wear a hood when I look.
Yeah, it's hard. But it's worth it. Its only when you identify that you want something to change that you can actually change it. So start small, and slowly build.
