Ghost Busting Working on me Part 2

[sandi2]

I can see from the last three months of being nice it has not drawn her closer to me I am not sure that she is any further away either

I don't see how that answers your question about if she's a WW or WAW. It simply means things are in limbo.

So much of my problems comes from my thinking and I know that my thoughts create my feelings that create my experience

I agree. I also believe you can control a great deal of it.

The trouble is it is also very difficult to control your thinking but then thoughts come and go as you can

Yes, it is difficult. However, I believe when we constantly go over and over the same things.....without disciplining ourself to stop, it can turn into something else. It can become obsession, feed our fears, etc. For example, how many times have you posted about your worry over selling the house? Every time, you talk as though this decision is entirely left up to your W and you are just sitting helplessly on the bylines. But my point is that you don't just refer to it, but almost say word for word each time. So, how can that be helpful in controlling your thought patterns if you persist in writing it over and over again? I'm no authority. It just seems that at some point, you would have to do something else to help yourself with these recurring thoughts. I don't know how to stop a thought from entering into my head, but that doesn't mean I have to allow it to linger around in there. We have to replace those bad thoughts with something else. Why not start changing it by refusing to write this all out about the house again? Have you tried it, to see how you feel after....say, a week?