So things around the house have been very calm for the past week or so...my wife seldom initiates any conversation and I am getting weary of always 'carrying the ball' talking. I get the sense that she is ok for now with the status quo. I am continuing to be patient and am doing things for and with myself and others.
My wife is leaving this weekend for a trip in which, at least part of the time, she will be seeing the OM (he lives many states away). I have confirmed this, but she does not know that I know this. This will be the first time that I can confirm that they have/will be physically together. Upon her return she will find that I have moved her out of the bedroom.
So this is my question: Is it better that I tell he before she goes away that I know what she is meeting the OM? I know this will not change her plans (and will probably initially even heighten her connection to the OM during her visit). Or should I wait until her return and tell her that I know the real purpose of her trip?
Either way, I plan on telling her that, at the very least, we owe each other honesty and integrity and that I have boundaries and spell out what they are.
