The letter sound like a bunch of threats to me. The last thing you need to do is threaten her. If you insist on writing her it should not include any consequences if she does not comply.
Honestly Angel, it does not sound like you are ready for her to come home. You need to understand this situation better. You need to understand yourself. I have read a lot about how she has contributed to this situation but not much about how you have. What are you doing right now to fix yourself, to make yourself a better husband and father? Accept the faults within yourself and improve yourself. She will see these improvements over time. This is how you get her back--free will, not through consequences.
As far as the safety of the children, if she is in a womens shelter, the children are probably fine. Those places are designed to help women and their children. I do not think the situation is ideal for the kids. However, I dont think it is dangerous either. I understand how hard it is to be away from your kids, especially against your will. This will pass, it has been a short time in the grand scheme of things.
If you truely want to get the authorities involved, dont write the letter, just call the authorities. My suggestion to you is to think long and hard befor doing this. What is in the best interest of the children. Can you really meet their needs if you are working all the time? Will they be able to handle being away from their mother?
Good luck!
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
