Hi there Wonder, Just got up to speed with your new thread...
Oh how I like the way you mentioned to H how you would like to understand his choice before deciding a direction of your own about the papers. Even tho, he responded with silence, I would sit with this for a while to see if he will offers you an answer. It may take him a few days to put those thoughts together in a way he feels he can present them to you.
A bit earlier you mentioned...
Quote: He's into grand gestures and little gifts-- though very uneasy taking them from me these days. Tried that for a while and he has accepted them and seemed warmed by them, he feels he does not deserve them and says so.
You may want to consider go back to it. My W reacted the same way, but I made it about me instead, by responding that I like how it makes me feel. In time, not only did she accept them, but started to really appreciate them too.
Often, they were on the theme that I was just thinking about her ... a card that said, "I hope this helps get you thru your day." ... "thank you for being you"
