How do you expect a wound to heal if you keep re-opening it to see the damage.
I think you need to stop typing the words you say in each post and say them to yourself and UNDERSTAND what they mean.
When I read posts about being a better person it seems the majority go into super dad mode and mr. sheen mode. Spending endless hours with the kids and leaving the house clean and tidy like mary Poppins.
My question is if this really works. Have you really thought about what could have really messed up your marriage? Was it really only you gave a few hugs less and did not have polishing skills? Do you think trying to be Mr. Perfect will work?
IMO I think we first need to see where we really went wrong and validate what the WAS says to see if it was true. In other words use true insight. I also believe that being the best person only a fool would leave does not mean spending endless hours with the kids and leaving the home spotless but much more.
G, i really think you should stop posting on other people's boards, stop sharing and caring about their pain when it is clear you are unable to handle yours.
Whatever life may bring to you, believe me the hard part is yet to come. if you are not ready now for this part you will not be ready for the rest of the journey. This is 4play to how life will be later on.
Whether she stays or goes, you will be either piecing or rebuilding and from i know and read, it is much harder and longer than what you are going through.
Stop asking the same questions you know the answer to, get a grip on your life before you lose it.
At the end of the day it is all you can control....
