LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M

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Sandi,
Dang it! Just had a conversation and wish I would have been able to log in to see this first. I was gone most of the day and when I returned she was organizing divorce paperwork. I asked what I need to have ready and she started telling me. I said you're shooting to get this done as soon as possible. I stopped...sat down and said " I do not want a divorce. I do not want a marriage like we had and I believe we could have a very healthy marriage". She said "Well your behaviors are not making me want to stay M. I don't know who you're getting advice from but kicking me out of the bedroom makes me Hate you and further enforces I'm doing the right thing. You being gone all the time and not spending time with the family makes me feel like you don't want to be around us." She also said " all I've ever asked you for is space and you refused to move out". Which I thought was a little crazy bc she's talking out of both sides of her mouth. I told her sleeping in the master bedroom is me setting boundaries. That I am not the one choosing to leave the M and if she needs space she can leave.

We also talked about selling the house. She said she wanted to sell it ASAP. I said I'm not selling until all the paperwork is signed bc I don't want the divorce and I believe we can have a very healthy M with God's help

I don't know if I should have told her I don't want the divorce again. She said my actions are saying I do want it. Ugh....so confusing