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I could leave but then I would not be able to see my S every night and put him to bed. The thought of losing that is taking its toll and I just don't know where to turn.
Married living in the same house with everything as it was before but no connection

I know your pain I am in Exactly the same position and I mean exactly ....having the R conversation does not help I do it have done it and always it has been met by the same response

My w started to detach about three years ago we still get on we do things together almost just like things were before BD just the imp tamale has now gone and she goes out with her friends when she wants to ...she is secretive with her phone msgs a guy gets her emotions filled from his flirting ...wanker ......

Here is what I am hoping
1) I can detach so that when she goes out it really does not bother me right now it drives me crazy the thinking ...not even going to go there
2) I start to make new friends if this leads to me being happier then great
3) be a betterfather to my four kids
4) be a better husband washing ironing cleaning spend time with family
5) have her in the house for as long as possible not rush to sell I feel this may give me the best oppertunity to show her my changes ....I may be very wrong with this approaching see no good from us being apart

6) Improve myself be the best ghost I can be

I do not want to be a part time parent ...my W would prefer to sell the house and start a new life without me move on forward

She has no idea how hard this will be for everyone she has given this no thought not looking forward to that point when it comes

Good luck

You can get through this we both can

Ghost