Such a tough time for you right now, but you are getting through it with resilency. It is very confusing why they need to push it along at such a pace without really thinking it through or openly talking about it. I don't know if anyone knows why the push so hard other than they are unsure of what to do and are scared to try again thinking that this will cure it.
Quote: My friend said yesterday that she thought as long as WAs are in full guilt mode, they attribute any bad feelings they have to their guilt, rather than other emotions that might be more helpful to working out your sitch (regret or desire, let's say, or even anger). When you show them that you're not destroyed, it takes away some of the tremendous guilt and may let them sort things out differently. I think, therefore, that you made the right move. I for one am interested in what his response might be after a little time goes by.
I guess thats why the drop the rope and get a life sayings. I would guess if there is such a tangled mess of emotions they are feeling, it would be hard to decipher which is attributable to what parts in their lives. Maybe relief of the guilt will go a long way.
I don't think you are in the wrong forum, I think you will be DRing throughout your whole life and you are piecing for yourself as much as anyone. You have become a different person and I do sense your strength through your posts.
You have said many times to others to remain patient, so maybe try this relaxed accepting attitude with him on the website and see how that goes.
