Hi PP. you have control over you and control over how things affect you What you also control is if you stand or not If you decide you no longer want an R with W then that's it. Whatever W decides or changes her mind or whatever your control of you makes the final choice.
You might meet someone who you enjoy and like spending time with but wish to keep that R as light to see how W gets on. I remember old dog telling his new lady that if his W change her mind he would give the R a chance. He was quite clear with the new lady.
That's my takeon the wise cadets words but I'm sure he will clarify at some stage
