I'm sorry that you had a rough day yesterday. I do hope that you have something nice planned for today.
MLCers do act nasty and distant w/old friends, co-workers and family. Their new friends become they best buds and they become the focal point in their lives.
MLCers rewrite history and say that they've been unhappy 1, 2, 3 and more years of the relationship. If they had been that unhappy for that many years, you would have known it. So, take this MLC lingo w/a grain of salt. They tend to twist things around and yes, at that moment, they believe what they are saying.
MLCers tend to vilify us in order to justify what they are doing. They can't look in the mirror and admit that they are doing something wrong. It has to use and the relationship that is causing them to be so unhappy.
Leave him to his crisis. You can't rationalize w/him right now because he's emotional and isn't thinking as clearly as he should be. He's playing the victim and "me" game of life right now.
Try to keep the focus on you. It will take time, but you will need to detach a bit more. Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
