Sotto,
Happy was here many years ago and the postings were purged. However, I did locate this one thread which may be of help to you from another poster.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2102284&page=1


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.