I know he has so much in common with his OW. And they have been helping each other though the process of leaving their respective spouses. They also work in the same business. I don't doubt that she's a good woman, unfortunately.
I did kick him out a month ago. I couldn't stand having him here when he was texting her right under my nose. That felt like a pretty insensitive thing to do. The problem is, he is actually a good man. This break up has been under way for a long time as far as he's concerned. I guess meeting her this spring was just the final nail in the coffin. If we had had a great relationship, then maybe there would still be a chance for us. But I have to face the reality that we just met and got married too young. We both agree that had we met 5 years ago, instead of 15, maybe things would have been different. We had talked about going away on vacation when he came back from his months-long trip this summer. We REALLY needed that. I thought things were about to turn around. I had been starting to work on myself a bit. It looked like our finances were starting to get better and we could thing about getting a sitter for our kid, so we could get some alone time. But instead he met OW.
Sometimes I still get a little confused about how to DB. If I'm happy and aloof, isn't that just going to make him relieved? Then he can go off and enjoy OW without feeling guilty?
Overcom, I'm so sorry you are going through the same thing. It doesn't exactly sound like a lasting r if she's a drug addict. Wonder what is going through your husbands mind. I can't imagine him NOT waking up from this though.
