H has told me numerous times (with tears in his eyes) that he NEEDS me in his life after the D....
One would think this is comforting, but to me it hurts like HE**......
Why does he want me in his life but not want to be married to me??
Quote: To me, a D is saying, my life is better without you in it. What is a D saying to H? Obviously not the same thing.
I wish I knew the answer to this. I think the WAS NEEDS the D because they blame us for their unhappiness and pain. Unfortunately once the D is final, H won't feel any better....that may be when you see things start to change.....
Quote: I'm pretty sure my behaviors have changed dramatically--something he's validated-- and I'm pretty sure that we've had endless conversations about our misconceptions and miscommunications and how fixable all those things are.
Keep highlighting your positive changes and keep DBing for you!!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
