So is my WH, short, bald and fat. POWs everywhere. Even an Italian woman from Italy on holiday.

My goodness Jpeg, are these WH cloned?

No short bald and fat are everywhere.

Ghost you can do something about one of those three attributes!

And it isn't being folically challenged!

Actually I do believe we have hit a prime fear, a belief which can be released- let's see if I understand the limiting beliefs.

I fear being abandoned because WW is so attractive she can find another partner easily.
I fear being alone because I see myself as physically unattractive, short bald and fat.
I fear that because of my appearance I cannot be loved.

As a result:

I am insecure and think WW shouldn't go out at all, every time she does (especially clubbing) it triggers my fears and need to control.

I take very little action to improve me because I fear all of the above.

I think Only WW can love me, if she leaves there will never be love, I am unattractive in my own eyes therefore to women.

I need WW to love me because I haven't love for this short bald fat H.

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That's a lot of fear, my friend, I can see you struggling to change behaviour and that is very difficult with will power. I think we could tackle his from the beliefs up. It's all linked to appearance, it won't do any good telling you to look inside, what is on the inside is most important. Why not? This seems to be your belief set.

Were you teased as a child?

How old are these beliefs?

Has it been this way since you met WW?

It would be good to know that these are your beliefs, how long they have been there and what effect they have had on you.

Something definitely to discuss with IC.

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So, with this insight I think the mirror work will do well.

We could also tackle the one issue that can be changed- your weight.

This is a belief set I really understand, it's one I am tackling myself. My programming arises because a of abuse and yes, I see myself as fat too. Short, yes. Balding, yes, but my hair fell out because of the stress, it's called diffuse alopecia. I now use Rogaine and extreme self care.

So how overweight are you?

What is your current regime for tackling it. Your goals, do they include your health as a priority.

Is GAL including exercise and movement on the cards.

Ghost, this is a health issue perhaps?

Is this anything WW has said or is it your view of you?

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Keep smiling at that man in the mirror!

I think we are at long last seeing some light. All I need to find is the light switch.

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 10/04/15 08:21 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW