Depressing post.... She's moving out in 6 days.

[mahhhty]

Gabs -

Your perception of the system is the only thing absolute. MWD says over and over do what works. That itself is a fluid concept and not absolute.

Of course you can't go no contact with kids. But you can go no response on all text/voicemails/concerns that don't pertain to kids. You can withdraw from some of those inquiries. Unless of course she complains repeatedly that you withdraw. Than perhaps doing what works would be to engage (picking certain topics and keeping it light).

It is about doing what works and testing different things to see if they work.

I have read a lot of success stories and only once did someone "befriend" their way back to a marriage. In general I don't think it is a concept that works but it may work for you, if you believe it fits. And you test it appropriately to see if you get the results you are looking for.

Knowledge is power. Read and educate yourself. Also re-evaluate how you contributed and put a lot of pressure on yourself to clean those areas up.