Gabs

I feel your pain I really do I am not sure if you have been following any of my threads but I am exactly the same ok you trump be on the length of the marriage but I too am finding it extremely difficult to detach from her

I am not the best at giving out advice I struggle to accept advice given to me but as we are both struggling perhaps we can be there for each other

Try to remember it was not your decision to leave the marriage she left you and as much as you might like to think you can ......you cannot control someone they will make their decisions and tbh there is so little that you can do to make them change their mind

My youngest is just two years old and I am 46 I know I have the next 20 to 30 years ahead where I will see my W who will become my XW who will perhaps become involved with another man and as much as I hate this I know I can Mr lock her up

I also try to think on the pain that she is causing me I know my feelings and thoughts but they come from this situation and try to think how could someone that said they loved me treat me this way.

I am not looking forward to my w leaving the house for me t might come the day we sell and the removal truck turns up taking my things to my new house and her things t hers stairs day will be difficult.

Try and focus on today take things a day at a time

Take care my friend you will be alright ...

Ghost

Last edited by Ghost56; 10/03/15 09:51 PM.
Me:48 W 41
M:18 T:26
2 D 18 & 4
2 S 17 & 13
Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation
D filed 06/17
Separate houses 10/17
D Final 29/12//17.