I have the same problem. I guess we all do. We need to pull each other along and just take as good care of ourselves as we can and at least be facing forward on the days we aren't actually moving forward. We need to be present in our own lives. Even if it means experiencing the hurt and fear, even if it knocks us off our feet sometimes, we can't let it destroy our spirits. Just face forward and take it one day at a time. Some days one minute at a time.
I have said it before and I will say it again- I could not do it without this forum.