Polar bear watching in the Alaska. Will you never cease to amaze me !!
Re the drink with handsome Dan , I think it would do you the world of good. Your H dealt you a harsh blow and it would have knocked anyone's self confidence Even though it seems clear your H is in an MLC it's very hard not to take it personally and react in that way
My friends who have helped me through this time often encourage me to take a step back and look at the sitch with fresh eyes. Obviously I'm able to do that with yours. I hope you don't mind but below is what I see
H starts MLC due to age and or problems between you and him
H finds a OW ( didn't really matter who ) and Sotto finds out
Sotto leaves. Showing H you will not tolerate his behaviour
H is now in full MLC. and keeps grasping at those straws
Sotto ( from Hs point of view ) gets on with her life , leaving H to do him
H is grabbing now at straws , wants to be a dad but already is Two failed Rs behind him and why on earth would be feel like a 3 rd would be a success
H is now struggling with losing Sotto. And I believe he is or you would t be getting messages about how your the right one for him and beautiful , etc if he wasn't
Sotto ( from H view ) is still living her life and not begging H to return
H files for D as he NEEDS to get on with his life ( more like his MLC )
The above is my view Sotto , that's no mind reading , just observations based on the events In DR the MLC section is big on the length of time it takes for an MLC to end Looking at your Hs past you could be waiting some time. You've filled your life but there is still a sadness to your posts Of course I know why but I wonder if maybe a drink with handsome Dan or the like be a toe in the water to how you feel as opposed to how you think you feel
As I have posted my own offers from the fairer sex have been varied and scary!!! but even when the very attractive young lady made the offer I was not moved. Now leaving Pink , you , Sunny and Vanillia out for the equation I don't think anyone could move me right now but maybe for Sotto it would be different
Just my two pence worth and ignore if I've overstepped any lines
