Ghost56, buddy, you've had a lot of advice and keep,asking questions that show a yes but attitude. Here's some tough love, so be prepared.
Sandi2 is a goldmine of information and advice. She is also one of the most patient people I know, even she is, to me anyway, a little frustrated with you.
Many are giving you DB'ing advice, others are saying you need professional help, some giving you guidance on how to change your mindset, many different angles, all trying to help and yet you say, "yes but" to all of them.
It's time to man up and look at what people are saying to you, stop with the I can't rhetoric and start with the I can attitude.
I feel your pain, I was there once and when I started to really listen to the advice being given and acting on it, things started to change for me in ways I couldn't imagine back then.
Do yourself a huge favour and look back over all of the rich, insightful, empathic and compassionate advice you've had on your thread. Pick something that you think MIGHT work and run with it, no questions, just do it, then ask questions when you start to get results, whatever they may be.
Tough love speech over. Now, take action Ghost56, we are all rooting for you!
Avanti I do hear you sandi she is amazing and I really am not trying to push the patience of anyone she has been absolutely fantastic and I respect and truly value her guidence
I am spinning I will re read this thread several times to try to get my head arround the help that has been posted
Me:48 W 41 M:18 T:26 2 D 18 & 4 2 S 17 & 13 Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation D filed 06/17 Separate houses 10/17 D Final 29/12//17.
