determined to overcome this storm part 2

[Vanilla]

Overcom

The important thing is are you and the children healthy?

Let's analyse the statement in you last post for a moment as if we were both independent of your sitch as if you and I were concerned friends of overcom, talking and giving sympathy over a glass of wine (and cheeeeeese).

WH has visited to help with a sick child and overcom said 'I hate you for leaving our family'. What reaction would you expect from WH?

Joy,
not again,
wretched STBX W can't cope again,
was concerned the children are with her and she is not coping,
Do I need to have the children instead?
and there she goes off on one,
got go get out of here,
Emotional blackmail,
She really can cope chooses not to
when will she learn I have OW?

It could be any of them, in combination or even something else, we will never know and none of the above are good. Perhaps you were hoping he would say, "I am so sorry I can see you are not coping and I will come home?"

He is texting OW, probably WH is in the addicted phase, and also probably OW s insecure, and because probably he wants too.

Yes, it hurts he sacked overcom as his wife, so for the sake of your children take the advice above.

He also said "you didn't take care of me and someone else is"

That tells you a lot, firstly the didn't is past tense, he is moved on and that's his story. It can also be a hidden reference to sexual connection too. My WH was always saying "V, you are not a 'We' person". My friends are all saying that I am the opposite of that: too much a we person. That isn't helpful clearly in WH eyes there was something I wasn't doing in being a 'we' person. I asked him several times what he meant by it and either he couldn't or wouldn't tell me. So in the end I went through a questioning process, I really don't want this in my next R, so It is something I will observe in future.

So let's ask overcom, in what way did WH think you did not take 'care' of him? Remember it's his view, it may be by all standards you did take care of him. Is this valid? If so are there 180s? Could he attempt to say this about the children too?

It's you and the children that I am most interested in, overcom. In seeing you a strong and vibrant woman that only a fool would leave.

V