Ghost, I was a "don't rock the boat" guy. And for the last year or so, my W put everything ahead of our M. Blamed me for everything, and made me actually believe it! So I went into super H mode, until she told me she wanted a D. Now, through counseling and DB, I have 180 and stood up for myself. It is helping me detach, and realize what was wrong on her side of the M too. Remember, it took 2 of you to get here. You can lead her to wake up, but you can't make her. Listen to the vets! Learn from their experience, and save yourself some of the heartache that can be avoided
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
