Still riding the waves

[HaWho]

Hi Mleigh- I completely understand the balancing act you are doing. You're trying to keep the door open but not make it too comfy for H to toggle between 2 ideal worlds: having family and alone time all on his terms. Yet, best chance of him coming out of MLC is for you to give him his space to grow up. And of course, you are trying to stand and make yourself as happy as possible throughout. Tough balancing act all around.

I totally agree that whatever he says is just a snapshot of that exact moment. So unless his actions follow what he says the words will mean nothing. One thing I would be prepared for is that by intitiating R talk you may catch him at a moment where much of what he says is very hard to forget. Although intellectually we know they don't mean it, once they say certain things they don't mean/will forget the moment they leave their lips, LBS is left feeling like she went through a paper shredder.

Remember, he currently is not in his right mind so expectations are particularly dangerous.

You are doing so well balancing all your variables!