Hi Jim, thanks for stopping by. It's always good to hear from you. Thanks for the kind feedback - though I don't think you should have any regrets about how you have conducted yourself. I don't have any plans for a bear safari - though never say never! I do know someone who goes on regular bear safaris though - at least a couple of times a year - polar bear watching in Alaska and so on. I'm sure I could swing an invite if I really fancied it.

Yes, that might be an idea about the drink. It would be nice to have a new male friendship (you guys excepted of course smile ) - though I'm certainly not looking for anything much more than that just now. Maybe when I am actually divorced I'll feel different.

Yes, I get you about the papers. It isn't nice to see it all there in black and white. For me, the main thing I'm working on is actually thinking about H much, much less. I still find myself ruminating over things and I don't want to carry on using up energy on that. I realise it is pointless and makes no difference to anything anyway. Other than that, I'm just going to deal with D business as best I can and look forward to having more settled finances, buying a place and so on.

Have a great weekend JIm xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus