Thank you all for your support. It was an emotional day, but I had a nice afternoon with my boy! After I dropped him off I had a training to go to, so it was a good distraction. Yesterday I survived my first soccer game with OW scowling in the corner and H not even showing up. Light and breezy, that is how I go into these things. I am sure people are talking about my sitch, and I really don't care. Let them talk. I am honest about what is happening if they ask, but I am being careful to not be catty or talk about her or H. Even though I really, really want to.
I think I am handling myself with dignity. Keeping the focus on the kids. Not letting her get under my skin. Although, I do get satisfaction in knowing that I am socializing among the crowd and she is off by herself in the corner. We have a lot of shared friends, and I will not make them take sides. At the end of the day, they will make their own decisions about the situation.
I am practicing forgiveness. It isn't there all of the time, but when I am in these situations I keep telling myself, I forgive her for what she did. I am going to be in a better place because of what happened, so maybe I should even thank her. I think it is helping me relax when I have to be around her and hopefully I come across as the bigger person in my body language. And it doesn't seem to hard to do when I am in the situation, but after I leave I realize how exhausted I am and need an emotional release, so it does take a lot out of me.
Then again, I am probably completely vain to think people are consumed with my life and reading into everything I do, but I've seen other couples go through this, so I know that there is definitely talk--just probably not as much as I fear.
Last edited by mustardseed; 10/02/1505:39 PM.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
