Ghost Busting .....it's time to work on Me

[ATPeace]

Hi Sandi

I was not that close to my father so loosing him did not affect me very much at all
Yes I grieved his loss but nothing like this. Loosing my w well this is different much much harder to come to terms with.

Yes I have to make a choice to detach ...how,do I do this when she is being nice friendly yes her pay off is nice guy ghost me I have lost my W lover but retain my friend

Otw I do think that part of the marriage breakdown was caused by me but not all of it in her mind she does not own any of it ...she says it was because of me not doing enough and not spending the evenings with her and not spending quality time with the kids
So yes I know I cannot fix her or make her love me she wants out the marriage i cannot make her stay this is her choice I do not think it should be me to put the house on the market she wants out then this is something she can do.

Yes I will distance myself from her yes I will try to DB like I should have been

Thanks for everything evey ounce of help really does help me now as my post says I will try to keep working on ghost