Cat must have lost the argument and the war... I miss her.

Things have been very bad lately. I validate & empathize and listen but day after day it becomes a hate-filled berating from my husband. He's so deep into depression and only blames me for every thing.
He hates that he is feeling stuck but will NOT want to face anything. I know all I can do is listen and validate but this daily hate-fest is killing any shred of affection or love in me.

Me: 42, H: 38
Married: 12 years (second M for me)
14D, 9D
2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC

At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?