Ghost, I agree with Huddy & the others. I don't think you having lunches out and watching box sets with your W is going to win her back. It puts you more into 'friend' territory, and I don't think that is the right way to go with a WW.

I don't see that you need to do a huge pull back. But I do think you need to build your own life and GAL activities up, so you are much less available to do this kind of stuff. And your W starts to wonder....what is Ghost up to when he's out at the tennis club etc. Don't be completely transparent. Start to be a little more mysterious.

I know you don't want to stop doing that stuff. But which do you want more? Carry on doing that stuff as long as you can (until you completely lose your W) or pull back (which may start to draw her towards you?)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus