Ghost Busting .....it's time to work on Me

[Avanti]

Ghost56, firstly thank you for your contributions to my sitch, they are most appreciated.

I am new to yours and so forgive me if I am missing particular details, it is simply that my observations of your recent and not so recent posts are about things that you are acknowledging as "cheeseless" or that you are "trying".

This led to the following thoughts and questions,

1) It is good that you know that you are waiting for something that's not going to come, why are you wearing the chair out at the end of the tunnel anyway?

2) Is trying the same as doing? In my book, trying is not whole hearted, doing is a fully committed position. So how do you feel about making that simple word swap for a week or two and to see what happens to your thinking and actions? Call it your experiment on you. It'll take practice but you'll soon get the hang of it "I am doing not trying...", if you slip don't criticise yourself (it is important that you don't)be thankful that you've caught yourself and gently rephrase your sentence.

While on the subject of swapping things, you have posted a lot and have many threads in a very short period of time (not a bad thing in itself), sampling each one shows a common theme, vicious circles. This is the symptom of someone who is depressed and there are many ways round it, drugs are one (Prozac or something similar). Many in the medical profession are now longing towards talking and action therapies, such as Congnitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), or the non-spiritual Mindfulness Meditation, as the results are often achieved quicker and there's no need to upset you body's chemistry with foreign substances that may take months to find a balance and so be of assistance.

All of these non-medication focussed routes are about one thing and that's recognising that when you have a dark thought and allow it to go round in your mind, it gets embellished each time round, the more times it goes round the darker it gets until it obstructs all other thoughts. The therapies then take you through methods to recognise the dark thoughts and guide yourself towards something that is in the present, not the past or the future (you can't change the past and the future hasn't happened yet and you can affect it by what you do now).

Your R with your W is important, the most important thing to you right now based on your posts, is it OK to suggest that your mind is actually making things worse through creation of dark thoughts and getting you further away from where you want to be and that in itself is causing you to have further dark thoughts?

If you agree, what kind of things do you think will help YOU (not your R, not your M, not your W) to achieve greater clarity in your thinking?

One last question, do you want to stop feeling the way you do right now and have done for a while? If so, the only thing that can do that is to change you and that's what we are all willing you to do. Get you right and your world will change dramatically and all the other things that are important to you will start to become less challenging as you'll start to see a way forward that works for you, as it's your design so it'll fit perfectly.

You are your answer to everything, recognise that and start making life what you want it to be, rather than what it was, or should be.

Of course it could always be that by not being fully up to speed with your sitch that I've missed something fundamental and all the above is hog wash, so feel free to ignore me. :-)