Finally asking for help: 2

[Vanilla]

Solo said " I can't help but feel like I'm being taken advantage of"
Marriage is give and take. Screw the scorecard. Your taking one for the team.

Mutatio, yes it is, but it's a two way street. Love is a choice, we can choose love. Respect we earn for ourselves, to ourselves, and it isn't a one way flow.

As far as love is concerned,we love self more and more each day, a score card is unnecessary for our love can forbear, there is no shortage when we have self love. With respect and self respect we require dignity of thought and action of ourselves. In this way with a wayward the giving (other than love that we Chanel from our higher power) is not endless, it is conditional upon our boundaries being respected.

If we heal our self and our inner being (child) that self respect is automatic for us. I do believe that we should not feel we are being taken advantage of.

In my own sitch, WH can have the love I gave him freely which is my choice and that I still do, in unlimited quantities, take it all WH , giving love makes me stronger. I am very clear that I will not be abused or taken advantage of. That is not a score card, it is self respect and reasonable boundaries, in most sitches it stops cake eating.

I always think a scorecard is for behaviours not feelings. How many times I took out the trash vs the number of times you cleaned the loo. Even so when we D we need the score card, I spent this, you had those assets, you had 10 affairs, I had none etc.

V