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S assault is serious. At this point I would caution how you handle it. This is the father of your children and husband of 19yrs. Bringing family members into this would most likely be a disaster. I definately recommend setting clear boundaries with him. Do not put yourself in that position again. This is to protect you and him from his actions.

Sorry you had to go through that. If you set boundaries and make it clear to him that what he did is unacceptable and he does not respect your boundaries it will be time to take more drastic measures.