seems she is still trying things on and seeing how they fit at the moment if that makes any sense
Yep, makes perfect sense. Like watching somebody that shattered put themselves back together without really knowing what the picture "should" look like. I say should, because that's really a lot of this, isn't it amigo?
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Cali, she's trying to come back to you the best way she knows how and right now, she's doing it at her own pace
Couldn't agree more, Cali. And since you wrote these things about her and you, I think you see that too. It comes out in your posts.
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you will fine tune those things that are important to both of you and eventually find a rhythm
Yep, couldn't agree more with that either. Dang, you get the best advice from these folks!
The one thing that seems to be a stumbling block for you both is the sex. I understand that. Just calling it out in the open. Why? Because one thing that "helps" customers be closer is the physical intimacy. It's a follow on to the emotional and spiritual intimacy. Like icing on the cake. But like all things, it has to be in time and you both have to ready. Just something to keep in mind that may contribute to her thinking you don't fully accept her yet.
I admire the path you've taken, Cali. A hard road to be sure. But I think you've done it with style and grace to date and making great progress. I like the balance you seem to have in yoru posts - shows a lot about where you are and where your W is. She is trying very hard and it's a bumpy road to be sure. Unchartered in her family by the sound of it.
Don't let up! You're getting to the best parts..
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
