HI V! I never thought of the look at the eyebrows idea..good idea I will give it a try. You are right it is out of my comfort zone to be around him seperated. I will give this a try. I am sure it is a warning. I should probably have warning bells going off. I just hope the awkwardness does not last forever as we will be attending family functions together birthday parties ect. I do feel like I should protect myself. I also believe that at some point OW will demand he not talk to me and then you are right I would feel a different kind of hurt. So maybe I am just protecting myself. He went from my best friend to someone I could not trust and back so many times I have no idea where he would fall in that category. I certainly do not trust him. Ten things I am handling. D8 gymnastics, dance, counseling, Al Anon, Co Dependency book, listening to feelings, posting here, learning new things, handling bills, scheduling, work.
Ok the child thing is like uphill said. I have my daughter he has his 2 daughters. Yes both have mothers. Wonderful mothers at that. The kids (after talking to them) still consider each other sisters. I believe this comes from Ex's mom also still being D8's grandma. It is a very complicated family sitch. His mom considers me the daughter she never had. No matter what happens here between us I will be invited to all holiday gatherings weekly family dinner ect. They will remain D8's "grandparents" ect. So I am not really "creating" a family it is a family no matter if we are together or not together. Instead of being his Girlfriend I now go back to being his moms daughter. I dont know if that makes sense or not V. Either way I will remain co-parenting his children and he will co-parent my child. She also has a dad but Ex will always remain a part of her life also. We have no children together but do "co-parent" at this time. I take his kids so they can play together he keeps D8 so they can play together. We do school pick-up/daycare pick-up. I take care of D8's activities he takes care of his 2's activities but birthday parties ect we will both attend. kids games, concerts, competitons we will both attend and school conferences. Idk its complicated. I am willing to accept advice or questions on this. I know it complicates even more!
if you can give me a more direct question of what you are looking for V I am more than willing to work on this sitch and figure out what is best to do?
