V, to answer from my point of view about "his" and "her" children. I am pretty sure they each had children from other relationships? That is how I understood the sitch early on anyways... If I'm wrong, sorry!
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home