H has started an affair 2

[Sotto]

Anna, I am sorry to hear what happened. That must have been a frightening experience for you. Do you propose to do anything about him forcing you to have non-consensual S?

From what you post, your H sounds to be in a poor state just now. It sounds more like a life crisis than just an A in my view. What age is your H?

I don't know what to suggest really. I think he needs to find the will to help himself within himself. You could tell him you are concerned that he seems so low, and ask him if he wants to make an appt to see his Dr. perhaps?

In terms of the trip, who knows if it will help. You could suggest that you would be willing to help him if he thinks it may help. Of course, it could always end up with OW somehow involved and then you may feel aggrieved to have helped.

I think I tend towards keeping boundaries intact, but offering a little more in terms of friendship and support. Not loads more - but a little more, as you are suggesting above.

But I'm no vet Anna, and perhaps someone with more experience will stop by.

Take care xx