LBH w/ a WW trying to save my M

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thank you MrBond. I think I will offer to help her pay for it but will not give her money directly.

I reclaimed the master bedroom last night. She had a medium sized blow up.

I said " I have been wrestling with and praying about something for the last week. I know how you feel and your opinions but I have feelings and opinions too. Our bedroom is the martial bedroom ( she rolled her eyes). I will be staying in there and I would like you to leave."

She said "you can't just tell me you're going to be staying in MY room"

I said " it is our room, I will be staying there and I'd like you to leave"

She said "No, You can't just tell me to leave"

I said " I'm not negotiating this with you. I'm telling you what I'm going to do"

I then went to the basement bedroom to get my stuff. She followed me down there and said "If this is happening then it's happening tomorrow night and you're washing the sheets." I ignored her and continued to put my things into a basket. She said "you are the worst person I've ever met and I can't wait for this to be over" I said "me too"

I then went to the master bedroom to move back in. She came in the master bedroom, began gathering some of her stuff and told me again I was the worst person she ever met, she hates me and I'm a coward as she walked out of the room. We were standing in the door way. I told her again that I want her to leave as I shut the door and locked it.

She returned again to the master bedroom to gather things. She began to say something about our mediation. I put in my headphones. She said "I'm talking to you" I said "not right now you're not"

It felt really good to stand up to her. She has bullied me our whole marriage. I always told myself I was just getting along with her but now looking back I realize she bullied and manipulated me. She even tried to manipulate the situation last night by telling me it would happen tomorrow and I would wash the sheets. I feel I'm finally regaining myself and becoming the man I once was. One that stands up for myself and doesn't tolerate being disrespected.

I don't want a divorce but I don't want a marriage like a had or wife like she is right now. I want the wife I know she can be and wants to be.