I hear you. I lost my dad over a year ago to cancer.At the time I felt I was llosing both him and my W. Maybe I was right! But cancer does put that ngs in perspective.

My thoughts are with you.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together