Cali, Ginger has made some excellent points here. Your wife hasn't settled down into her own skin and she may not for quite some time. Many people need some alone time, even in the best of relationships, because they need time to think and to recharge their batteries. Reconciliation is difficult and she does need this time to think and contemplate how to make things right.
Cali, she's trying to come back to you the best way she knows how and right now, she's doing it at her own pace. Keep your expectations at zero because if you don't, you are going to be disappointed and frustrated when she's not able to meet you half way now. Give her the time and space she requires. If she needs alone time, give it to her...my friend, that alone time may be worth its weight in gold when you both cross the finish line.
Also, you may want to go back and re-read the thread that I wrote many years ago about reconnection. It's not easy and it takes a lot of patience. Dig deeper for patience.
