Hi Jpeg, I wouldn't let fear of him filing for D govern your actions. Could he just file for D if he wanted to in any case as you have been apart for a year? I would put your own security and that of your kids first and not worry that pursuing legal S may prompt him to file. After all - he will do what he will do in any case....
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus