My lizard and her tunnel ...

[late30s]

Update time:

Started the new job on Monday and it is AWESOME!Monday was also S18's birthday. Monday was also the day W and OM had to be out of the apartment.

I don't know where W is now. I haven't said two sentences two her since she left on Sunday. She spent the weekend here again. Saturday was good. Took D12 and W up to a mountain town and explored it a while. W asked if we could return on Sunday with the boys and we did. Sunday wasn't quite as nice. S18 was grumpy, needed to eat as soon as we arrived. We went to a few different places and finally found a place without an hour wait. I dropped more money than I would have liked on lunch then we went and explored some more.

W was moody the whole trip. Not sure why, didn't delve into it. Ended up setting a necessary boundary, I told her that if she still plans on coming to visit me on the weekends that she needs to be able to speak to me like a human being. I can't allow myself to be attacked any longer. She got frustrated with me, but I find that I am serious now. She may not think that I am, but I can't do that anymore. When she was evicted and elected to follow OM to where ever, something inside me snapped. I wasn't angry, just finally accepted that she is making a decision. Found myself wondering why I had been putting up with so much crap for the past year. I don't honestly have an answer at this point. I'm not done with standing, but it is different now. I think the realization of everything I have accomplished since BD helped me a lot. Today I am in a stronger position than I ever have been in my life. Kids and I have a GREAT relationship. I am making significant strides in my career and I have a lot of friends.

Monday was one of the best days of my life, certainly my best first day of work ever. Company bought donuts for me and had a meet-n-greet. I met all kinds of interesting people, physicists, naval officers, chemists, and engineers. After the meet-n-greet, I had a phone conference with HR, where they laid out even more benefits I wasn't aware I was getting. Once I finished that I went and did some research on some scripting languages. The last hour of work was "happy hour", it seems this is a monthly event. We all got together for the last hour, company provided snacks and beer.

Monday was one of Ws worst days of her life. Had to be out by midnight, no one would help her move. BIL and SIL want nothing to do with OM. She is nearly out of friends. As I understand it, she had to move into a basement bedroom at one of OM's friend's houses. For the first time, she posted something about this situation on her actual fb account. Pleading for help with the move. (My sister told me about this, no longer on her fb).

The contrast is pretty stark. W told me she no longer wants therapy. So back to square one on that.

Today was another excellent day at work. Company took me out to lunch and it was awesome. Haven't spoke to wife at all today, though she did text me this morning. I haven't replied. Things continue to look up in my household and I am getting excited. My biggest concern at the moment is if a D is coming, I may have trouble keeping my step-son on my insurance.

I don't know what tomorrow brings, but I think I am reaching a greater place of strength when it comes to dealing with this situation.